by lspeed | Mar 15, 2026 | RESTAURANT BUSINESS: BEHIND THE KITCHEN DOOR
In our restaurant, our Head Chef is, rather inconveniently for television producers, a calm and balanced person. During our peak seasons, he stands before a grill that behaves less like a cooking surface and more like a military operation. Three dozen steaks at once are fairly standard, sometimes more, each demanding its own treatment and precise moment of intervention.
A Rib Eye prefers the simplicity of medium rare. The next one has been ordered well done. A line up of Tenderloins insists on restraint, patience and widely differing cooking points, while one of our famous Picanhas rewards a decisive sear. Somewhere on the edge of the grill, a Skirt Steak waits to be sliced properly so that it ends up tender rather than obstinate.
Around him the kitchen and restaurant are boiling. Orders pile in, plates depart at second intervals, and the grill emits a steady soundtrack of sizzling fat and metre high flames. Yet our Chef rarely raises his voice. He flips, rests, bastes and checks with the quiet concentration of someone who understands that panic never improves a steak. This has been his pattern for well over a decade, which is precisely why we value him so highly.
Unfortunately, calm chefs like him are often the exception. The restaurant industry has long cultivated a curious figure: the tyrannical head chef who believes culinary excellence is best enforced through shouting, intimidation and the occasional airborne utensil. In this particular mythology, precision thrives best in a climate of fear, and a soufflé rises more reliably if someone nearby is being loudly humiliated.
Television, naturally, has preserved and amplified this character. The most famous embodiment of the angry chef persona is undoubtedly Gordon Ramsay, who managed the impressive feat of transforming volcanic temper into a global media franchise. His television kitchens operate somewhere between cooking school and gladiator spectacle. Contestants tremble under verbal barrages, dishes are condemned with theatrical brutality, and viewers watch the drama unfold while safely seated on their sofas munching popcorn.
The phenomenon is by no means limited to male chefs, although it has also seen prominent female figures accused of similar behaviour. One of the more widely discussed examples involved April Bloomfield, the chef associated with New York’s once fashionable Spotted Pig. Former employees later described a workplace culture in which bullying and intimidation appeared to be part of the daily kitchen rhythm. The issue is therefore less about gender than about overall restaurant culture and leadership.
Which brings us to the latest chapter in this uncomfortable discussion, involving Copenhagen’s once legendary restaurant Noma and its celebrated founder René Redzepi. He has been accused by former staff of violence and intimidation, and of creating a workplace in which shouting, public humiliation and even physical aggression were allegedly common. One chef described going to work there as entering a war zone; another compared the atmosphere to a hospital emergency triage room.
To his credit, Redzepi has acknowledged that he struggled with anger and has spoken about seeking therapy to address his issues. The Noma organisation has also stated that the workplace culture today no longer resembles the one described in these accounts.
Even so, the broader debate within the restaurant industry is unlikely to disappear anytime soon. Running a high performance restaurant like ours, serving over 200 steak covers a night, is unquestionably stressful. Dinner service needs to unfold with the precision of choreography performed under fire. Guests expect perfection rather than explanations, and a steak cooked two minutes too long cannot be persuaded back to medium rare. Still, pressure does not justify abuse.
We as restaurant owners have always maintained that we carry the ultimate responsibility, not only for the quality of the food, but also for the culture in which it is produced. The notion that temper tantrums are a legitimate management strategy is one we have always rejected, and one the industry at large needs to retire.
From day one, we took a deliberately unfashionable and distinctly non TikTok approach. Rather than tolerating theatrical outbursts, we opted for something that would not look dramatic on television – communication. Every quarter or so, the kitchen and service teams sit down together for an open exchange of views and issues. The purpose is not to assign blame, but to identify what works during service, what creates friction, and what could be improved before the next busy season arrives. It is remarkable how many operational problems dissolve once people simply speak to one another like colleagues.
Following these sessions, we organise a complete day off for team activities chosen by the staff themselves. Sometimes it is a beach outing, sometimes dinner somewhere else, occasionally karaoke, games they select, or something entirely unexpected. We as owners help organise and cover the costs. Everyone attends, many with spouses or partners, not as rival departments but as members of the same successful enterprise.
It is, admittedly, not the sort of system that produces viral kitchen meltdowns, but for us it functions rather well. Our restaurant has been operating continuously since January 2012, and we suspect that this rather mundane emphasis on mutual respect between kitchen and service teams has contributed more to that longevity than any amount of shouting or media coverage ever could.
The culinary world will continue to produce stories of chefs throwing pans, berating apprentices or declaring war on failed plate designs. Meanwhile, our own kitchen remains quietly occupied with the more traditional task of cooking excellent steaks.
Three dozen at once, sometimes more. No shouting required.
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Churrasco Phuket Steakhouse serves affordable Wagyu and Black Angus steaks and burgers. We are open daily from 12noon to 11pm at Jungceylon Shopping Center in Patong / Phuket.
We are family-friendly and offer free parking and Wi-Fi for guests. See our menus, reserve your table, find our location, and check all guest reviews here:
https://ChurrascoPhuket.com/
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by lspeed | Mar 8, 2026 | RESTAURANT BUSINESS: BEHIND THE KITCHEN DOOR
In our business, reputation is not a side dish, but the main course. You can source the best produce, age your steaks to perfection, polish the glasses until they sing under the lights, and still find your week defined by a single paragraph written at midnight on a smartphone. That is the modern dining room. It extends far beyond your four walls and lives online, where star ratings quietly shape tomorrow’s reservations.
Online reviews are today’s word of mouth, only faster and less forgiving. Once published, they live on the Internet forever, because neither Google or Tripadvisor care if you survive or die. A strong run of positive feedback lifts a restaurant’s profile and builds momentum. A poorly handled negative review lingers like overcooked fish.
Reviews are not just commentary, they are public theatre. And how you respond is part of the daily show. This is where a simple mantra proves surprisingly effective: Smile, Apology, Gesture. It sounds almost too neat, but in practice, it is disciplined, professional, and remarkably powerful.
Smile: Stay Positive
When you read a negative review, especially one that feels unfair, your first instinct is not calm serenity. You may want to reach for blood pressure medication, or at least set the record straight. You want to explain that Saturday night was fully booked, that the kitchen was running at capacity, that the guest arrived forty minutes late and ordered extra well done Wagyu.
All of that may be true, but none of it belongs in your opening sentence. “Smile” does not mean ignoring problems, but choosing tone over temper. A measured, friendly response signals to everyone reading that you are composed and professional. It also tells future guests that you care enough to listen and engage.
Even harsh feedback contains information. Sometimes it reveals a genuine oversight, or at least it can show a perception gap between what you think you deliver and what guests experience. Public defensiveness rarely wins applause, but professional composure usually does.
Apology: Take Responsibility
An apology is not a legal confession, but an acknowledgment of someone’s disappointment. And there is a difference, especially in restaurants like ours with a prevailing mantra of “Nobody Leaves Unhappy”. Phrases such as “We are sorry to hear that your visit did not meet expectations” validate the guest’s experience without assigning blame, before facts are clear. The goal is not to argue details point by point, but to demonstrate empathy.
In hospitality, guest perception is your reality, fair or not. If a guest felt overlooked, rushed, or dissatisfied, that feeling is real to them, even if your views or the internal report reads differently. Avoid long explanations, blaming staff, suppliers, the weather, or other guests. A public reply is not the place for operational analysis, but a place for reassurance. A concise, sincere apology shows maturity, and shows that you understand the long game. Restaurants are built on trust, and that trust grows when guests feel heard and acknowledged.
Gesture: Make It Right
The final step is action. Words set the tone, but a gesture rebuilds the bridge, and this does not always require a grand offer. Sometimes a personal invitation to return and experience the restaurant again is enough. Sometimes a complimentary course, a discount, or a direct line to management makes sense.
The key is relevance. If the issue was slow service, mention that improvements have been implemented and invite the guest back to see the difference. If a dish disappointed, offer to prepare it personally next time. Specific gestures signal accountability, and show that the response is not templated but considered and thoughtful.
At the same time, gestures must be sustainable, because restaurants don’t survive by giving away the dining room every time someone complains online. The ultimate aim is not to reward negativity, but to demonstrate fairness and goodwill.
Life Beyond The Damage
Handled correctly, a negative review can actually strengthen your reputation. Prospective guests often read the worst reviews first, wanting to see how you react under pressure. A composed, empathetic, solution focused response can turn a potential liability into evidence of professionalism. Positive reviews deserve attention too. Engagement suggests pride. Thanking guests publicly reinforces loyalty and encourages repeat visits. Silence, by contrast, suggests indifference.
Every plate leaving the kitchen carries expectation. And every review, glowing or critical, offers a chance to refine your craft and public face. So even if it’s difficult sometimes, do the “Smile, Apologise & Make a Gesture” routine. In the restaurant world, reputation served daily, with every reply having to be as carefully considered as any dish on the menu.
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Churrasco Phuket Steakhouse serves affordable Wagyu and Black Angus steaks and burgers. We are open daily from 12noon to 11pm at Jungceylon Shopping Center in Patong / Phuket.
We are family-friendly and offer free parking and Wi-Fi for guests. See our menus, reserve your table, find our location, and check all guest reviews here:
https://ChurrascoPhuket.com/
#Churrascophuket #jungceylon #phuketsteakhouse #affordablewagyu #wagyu
by lspeed | Feb 18, 2026 | RESTAURANT BUSINESS: BEHIND THE KITCHEN DOOR
One of the quotes I like to use in speeches, such as at the recent Gourmet Vietnam Awards, goes like this: ”You don’t have to be a bit crazy to be a Chef, but it often helps”. Every kitchen has its rituals, which help organise and subdue the chaos. But then there is that ritual nobody puts on the prep list.
Substances used to take the edge off. The pill to stay sharp, or to come down, or to sleep. The thin white line, snorted to feel less, or to feel anything at all at the end of a full-on shift. Addiction in professional cooking is not a niche problem, but a reasonably common and hidden part of kitchen life. It does not care whether the restaurant is a humble neighbourhood grill, or a white tablecloth temple of tweezers.
How widespread is it, really?
If you zoom out from “Chefs” to the broader world Chefs work in, the data is blunt. In the United States, the accommodations and food services industry has had some of the highest reported rates of past month illicit drug use among full time workers. At 19.1 percent in analysis of national survey data, it also showed the highest rates of past year substance use disorder in that same report.
Alcohol is not a side note either. Research using national household survey data has found restaurant workers reporting heavy alcohol use at roughly double the rate seen across all industries in that analysis. On the mental health side, large hospitality surveys regularly report high levels of distress. One widely cited hospitality survey from The Burnt Chef Project reported that 80 percent of respondents had experienced mental health issues because of their role.
None of this proves that “all Chefs are addicts.” It does show that kitchens operate in an environment where risk is disproportionally high, and where the line between coping and dependency gets crossed more often than dining rooms will ever notice.
Why do kitchens create the perfect storm?
Addiction rarely starts as a cartoon villain. In kitchens it often starts as a very practical solution to an impossible schedule. Here are the classic ingredients:
Long Hours & Fatigue
When your body clock is treated like an optional garnish, sleep becomes a negotiation. Work related stress research in Chefs links workload and long working days with poorer health outcomes and stress.
Intensity & Adrenaline
Service is a performance with heat, speed, and criticism baked in. Your brain learns that high alert is normal, and normal feels flat.
Culture & Access
After shift drinking, “just one” with the team, staff nights that turn into staff mornings. Add in easy availability of alcohol in hospitality settings and the path gets smoother than anyone admits.
Pain & Injury
Burns, cuts, repetitive strain, standing for hours. Self medication can begin with sore feet and end somewhere darker.
Personality Type
Many Chefs are driven, proud, perfectionist, and stubborn, characteristics that thrive under pressure. Those traits build great plates, but they also make asking for help feel like failure.
What it does to Chefs, and to everyone around them?
Addiction does not stay politely in the back of house. For the Chef, it can mean anxiety, mood swings, unreliable sleep, declining performance, and injuries. Plus that constant private math problem: “How do I get through today.” It often comes with shame, which is an excellent fertilizer for secrecy.
For the team, it can mean inconsistent leadership, unpredictable shifts in tone, more mistakes, more conflict, and the slow normalisation of chaos. People either walk on eggshells or learn to shout back. For owners and managers, it shows up as turnover, absenteeism, accidents, inventory loss, guest complaints, and the grinding cost of replacing skilled people.
The human cost is worse, but the business cost is what usually forces the conversation. For families especially, it is the unforeseen second shift. Broken plans, emotional distance, financial stress. And that awful feeling of watching someone you love disappear while still standing in front of you.
Suicide risk, the part nobody likes to say out loud
Not only since the suicide of multi-hyphenate American Chef and television personality Anthony Bourdain (June 8th 2018) did the issue of Chef suicides enter mainstream discussion. Substance use and mental health struggles increase suicide risk, especially when combined with isolation, exhaustion, and a workplace culture that treats suffering as a badge.
Occupational data in the United States has shown elevated suicide rates for Chefs and head cooks compared with many other occupations. In CDC analysis of 2021 data, Chefs and head cooks were reported at 66.5 deaths per 100,000 for males and 32.9 per 100,000 for females. Cooks were also elevated.
Those numbers are not “kitchen gossip.” They are a public health signal. If you run restaurants, you are not just managing food. You are managing risk. If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, contact local emergency services right away. Do not wait or hesitate.
What actually helps?
Professional kitchens are built on systems, procedures, prep, and more prep. Addiction prevention is the same idea, just less photogenic. The goal is not to have restaurant owners act as analysts and mental health counsellors. Neither is it to create the perfect kitchen brigade. The goal for the people in charge must be to create and run a place with an environment where talented people do not need to numb themselves to keep cooking. To put humanity before profits, and mental balance before performance.
Because the best dish any restaurant can serve is a team that makes it home in one piece. And then comes back the next day ready for a new challenge.
Image Credit: https://churrascophuket.com (AI Generated)
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Reprinting, reposting & sharing allowed, in exchange for a backlink and credits
Churrasco Phuket Steakhouse serves affordable Wagyu and Black Angus steaks and burgers. We are open daily from 12noon to 11pm at Jungceylon Shopping Center in Patong / Phuket.
We are family-friendly and offer free parking and Wi-Fi for guests. See our menus, reserve your table, find our location, and check all guest reviews here:
https://ChurrascoPhuket.com/
#Churrascophuket #jungceylon #phuketsteakhouse #affordablewagyu #wagyu
by lspeed | Feb 18, 2026 | RESTAURANT BUSINESS: BEHIND THE KITCHEN DOOR
One of the quotes I like to use in speeches, such as at the recent Gourmet Vietnam Awards, goes like this: ”You don’t have to be a bit crazy to be a Chef, but it often helps”. Every kitchen has its rituals, which help organise and subdue the chaos. But then there is that ritual nobody puts on the prep list.
Substances used to take the edge off. The pill to stay sharp, or to come down, or to sleep. The thin white line, snorted to feel less, or to feel anything at all at the end of a full-on shift. Addiction in professional cooking is not a niche problem, but a reasonably common and hidden part of kitchen life. It does not care whether the restaurant is a humble neighbourhood grill, or a white tablecloth temple of tweezers.
How widespread is it, really?
If you zoom out from “Chefs” to the broader world Chefs work in, the data is blunt. In the United States, the accommodations and food services industry has had some of the highest reported rates of past month illicit drug use among full time workers. At 19.1 percent in analysis of national survey data, it also showed the highest rates of past year substance use disorder in that same report.
Alcohol is not a side note either. Research using national household survey data has found restaurant workers reporting heavy alcohol use at roughly double the rate seen across all industries in that analysis. On the mental health side, large hospitality surveys regularly report high levels of distress. One widely cited hospitality survey from The Burnt Chef Project reported that 80 percent of respondents had experienced mental health issues because of their role.
None of this proves that “all Chefs are addicts.” It does show that kitchens operate in an environment where risk is disproportionally high, and where the line between coping and dependency gets crossed more often than dining rooms will ever notice.
Why do kitchens create the perfect storm?
Addiction rarely starts as a cartoon villain. In kitchens it often starts as a very practical solution to an impossible schedule. Here are the classic ingredients:
Long Hours & Fatigue
When your body clock is treated like an optional garnish, sleep becomes a negotiation. Work related stress research in Chefs links workload and long working days with poorer health outcomes and stress.
Intensity & Adrenaline
Service is a performance with heat, speed, and criticism baked in. Your brain learns that high alert is normal, and normal feels flat.
Culture & Access
After shift drinking, “just one” with the team, staff nights that turn into staff mornings. Add in easy availability of alcohol in hospitality settings and the path gets smoother than anyone admits.
Pain & Injury
Burns, cuts, repetitive strain, standing for hours. Self medication can begin with sore feet and end somewhere darker.
Personality Type
Many Chefs are driven, proud, perfectionist, and stubborn, characteristics that thrive under pressure. Those traits build great plates, but they also make asking for help feel like failure.
What it does to Chefs, and to everyone around them?
Addiction does not stay politely in the back of house. For the Chef, it can mean anxiety, mood swings, unreliable sleep, declining performance, and injuries. Plus that constant private math problem: “How do I get through today.” It often comes with shame, which is an excellent fertilizer for secrecy.
For the team, it can mean inconsistent leadership, unpredictable shifts in tone, more mistakes, more conflict, and the slow normalisation of chaos. People either walk on eggshells or learn to shout back. For owners and managers, it shows up as turnover, absenteeism, accidents, inventory loss, guest complaints, and the grinding cost of replacing skilled people.
The human cost is worse, but the business cost is what usually forces the conversation. For families especially, it is the unforeseen second shift. Broken plans, emotional distance, financial stress. And that awful feeling of watching someone you love disappear while still standing in front of you.
Suicide risk, the part nobody likes to say out loud
Not only since the suicide of multi-hyphenate American Chef and television personality Anthony Bourdain (June 8th 2018) did the issue of Chef suicides enter mainstream discussion. Substance use and mental health struggles increase suicide risk, especially when combined with isolation, exhaustion, and a workplace culture that treats suffering as a badge.
Occupational data in the United States has shown elevated suicide rates for Chefs and head cooks compared with many other occupations. In CDC analysis of 2021 data, Chefs and head cooks were reported at 66.5 deaths per 100,000 for males and 32.9 per 100,000 for females. Cooks were also elevated.
Those numbers are not “kitchen gossip.” They are a public health signal. If you run restaurants, you are not just managing food. You are managing risk. If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, contact local emergency services right away. Do not wait or hesitate.
What actually helps?
Professional kitchens are built on systems, procedures, prep, and more prep. Addiction prevention is the same idea, just less photogenic. The goal is not to have restaurant owners act as analysts and mental health counsellors. Neither is it to create the perfect kitchen brigade. The goal for the people in charge must be to create and run a place with an environment where talented people do not need to numb themselves to keep cooking. To put humanity before profits, and mental balance before performance.
Because the best dish any restaurant can serve is a team that makes it home in one piece. And then comes back the next day ready for a new challenge.
Image Credit: https://churrascophuket.com (AI Generated)
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© CHURRASCO PHUKET STEAKHOUSE / ALL RIGHTS RESERVED
Reprinting, reposting & sharing allowed, in exchange for a backlink and credits
Churrasco Phuket Steakhouse serves affordable Wagyu and Black Angus steaks and burgers. We are open daily from 12noon to 11pm at Jungceylon Shopping Center in Patong / Phuket.
We are family-friendly and offer free parking and Wi-Fi for guests. See our menus, reserve your table, find our location, and check all guest reviews here:
https://ChurrascoPhuket.com/
#Churrascophuket #jungceylon #phuketsteakhouse #affordablewagyu #wagyu
by lspeed | Feb 8, 2026 | RESTAURANT BUSINESS: BEHIND THE KITCHEN DOOR
We all know that running a restaurant is not just an exercise in cooking food and hoping for the best. It is, and always has been, a careful balancing act between heat and heart, discipline and diplomacy, spreadsheets and human emotion. All performed while something is on fire, plates drop and shatter on the floor, and someone wants their steak cooked differently than they had ordered it.
Traditionally, success in the restaurant business rests on two pillars – hard skills and soft skills. Recently, however, a third participant has pulled up a chair at the table – Artificial Intelligence. It does not get tired or cranky, it does not call in sick, and it never forgets to update a spreadsheet. On the other hand, it does not understand sarcasm or irony, or why tonight guests suddenly all want their dessert at the same time.
Hard skills are the visible, tangible backbone of hospitality. They include knife work, serving procedures and standards, cooking temperatures, food safety, cost control, purchasing systems, inventory management, shift scheduling, and the ability to tell the difference between actual profit and a very optimistic interpretation of it.
These skills are measurable, teachable, and brutally unforgiving. A steak cooked badly will not be rescued by a charming smile, and a kitchen that does not respect hygiene will eventually be introduced to the health inspector in a very personal way.
For many hospitality careers, hard skills are where everything begins. You learn the craft, you repeat it endlessly, and you develop respect for standards, process, and precision. This foundation matters because restaurants are physical businesses. Plates are heavy, heat is real, time moves fast, and service does not pause for reflection. No amount of inspirational leadership will save a service if the basics are missing or misunderstood.
Soft skills arrive quietly, but then dominate everything. Communication, leadership, empathy, conflict management, and the ability to read a room or that difficult corner table without needing a spreadsheet all fall into this category. They are what determines whether a team functions under pressure, or dissolves into passive aggressive silence during a busy service. Handling a guest complaint without turning it into a three act tragedy, motivating a tired team without sounding like a motivational podcast, and knowing when to listen rather than speak are all very real operational skills, even if they do not appear on a checklist.
Experienced restaurateurs know that and the painful truth it brings. People rarely leave restaurants because of long hours or hard work. They leave because of poor leadership, unclear systems, or environments where being human feels inconvenient. Soft skills turn a workplace into a team, and a meal into an experience worth repeating. Unfortunately, they are often only appreciated once they are missing.
Enter AI and its growing league of protagonists, confidently promising to fix everything from scheduling to menu pricing, preferably before lunch. Artificial intelligence is excellent at recognising patterns, forecasting demand, optimising rosters, tracking food cost anomalies, and producing reports that look very convincing in meetings. Used properly, it removes repetitive tasks, flags problems early, and gives managers more time to manage people rather than wrestle with spreadsheets at midnight.
What AI does not do particularly well is sense that stern tension in a kitchen, notice when a young cook is quietly losing confidence, or read a guest’s expression when something feels off. Data can explain what is happening, but judgement is still required to decide what it means, and that judgement remains stubbornly human.
The real risk is not AI replacing people, but data replacing thinking. Restaurants are not factories, they are emotional, noisy, unpredictable ecosystems where timing, mood, and relationships matter as much as numbers. AI works best as a cleverly placed support act, not as the headliner.
So what ultimately wins – hard skills, soft skills, or AI? The only viable answer is all three, applied in the right order and definitely with a sense of proportion. Hard skills create credibility, soft skills create culture, and AI creates leverage. A restaurant run only on charm will fail politely, one run only on technique will eventually burn out its people, and one run purely by algorithms will feel efficient but soulless and Kafkaesque.
Future restaurant leaders need to master and understand the craft, lead people with empathy, and use technology without surrendering judgement. They need to know when to trust the data, when to trust their instincts, and when to ignore both and simply walk the floor and observe the room.
Guests may come for the food, but they return for how they felt. And no algorithm has quite figured that out – yet.
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Churrasco Phuket Steakhouse serves affordable Wagyu and Black Angus steaks and burgers. We are open daily from 12noon to 11pm at Jungceylon Shopping Center in Patong / Phuket.
We are family-friendly and offer free parking and Wi-Fi for guests. See our menus, reserve your table, find our location, and check all guest reviews here:
https://ChurrascoPhuket.com/
#Churrascophuket #jungceylon #phuketsteakhouse #affordablewagyu #wagyu
by lspeed | Nov 30, 2025 | RESTAURANT BUSINESS: BEHIND THE KITCHEN DOOR
Long term restaurant owners invest decades of sweat, intuition and determination into a business that becomes an extension of their personality. When the time comes to scale back or retire, many discover that succession can be harder than building the restaurant in the first place. The transition from founder to successor is a high risk moment. I have seen several examples of what can happen, both good and bad. A hand-over affects culture, guest experience and relationships, staff morale, vendor trust and credit, financial stability, even the survival of the brand.
Whether the next chapter involves hiring a professional general manager, grooming a family member, or selling the business to an individual or hospitality group, the same truth applies: succession does not happen by accident. It is a process, and it requires thought, planning, and discipline. Let’s look at the issues, the psychology behind “founder syndrome”, and some practical tips to help the business thrive after the owner steps back.
The Problem No One Talks About
Owners tend to delay succession planning because it forces them to confront two uncomfortable realities. First, that their own time in the business is not infinite. Second, that the restaurant will need to succeed without their daily involvement. Many wait too long, begin planning only when health or burnout forces the issue, then scramble to hand over with little structure.
Three challenging scenarios appear:
Outside Manager
Bringing in a professional general manager seems like a clean solution, but it is rarely simple. External managers come with their own leadership style, their own systems and their own interpretation of what constitutes good service. Staff often test boundaries, compare the new leader to the founder or resist changes. The founder, still emotionally invested, often hovers. If boundaries are not made clear, the incoming manager ends up with the title but not the authority.
Family Member
Family succession sounds romantic, but it can be the most complicated path. The next generation may have different ambitions, education and leadership preferences. They may modernise in ways that the founder finds uncomfortable. Meanwhile, other family members might question the fairness of roles, salaries or ownership shares. Without structure, expectations collide.
Selling Out
A sale solves ownership, but not necessarily transition. Buyers usually insist on a handover period. If the founder micromanages or contradicts the new owner during that phase, the relationship deteriorates quickly. Groups in particular seek scalable systems, brand uniformity and data driven decision making. If the founder resists, post acquisition friction becomes inevitable.
The Founder Syndrome
From personal experience I can attest that this is a silent deal killer. Restaurants thrive on personality and consistency. The founder has usually done everything himself at some point, from building the kitchen line to charming VIP tables. Letting go feels dangerous, even insulting.
Symptoms include:
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Insisting on approval for every decision
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Undermining new systems with “we have always done it like this”
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Correcting the successor in front of staff
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Reversing decisions because they do not match the founder’s habits
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Hovering in the background, quietly influencing opinions
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Rejecting data or modern systems in favour of instinct
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Treating the restaurant as an extension of personal identity rather than a business
The irony is that founders create instability by trying to protect stability. Their ongoing interference often causes the very failures they fear. Successful succession requires the founder to recognise these tendencies early and set rules to avoid them. It is often the hardest part for all parties involved.
Preparing The Groundwork
Succession should begin two to three years in advance. Key steps include:
Document Everything
Individual restaurants often rely on verbal routines and habits passed through culture rather than manuals. That is a red flag. Systems must be written, updated and accessible, meaning recipes, prep lists, cost controls, vendor contacts, guest recovery protocols, reservation process, opening and closing procedures, HR policies, finance reporting and marketing guidelines. A successor cannot follow what does not exist.
Define Non-Negotiables
A founder should identify what truly defines the restaurant. Examples: no discounting, consistent doneness standards, strict wine storage and documentation, precise plating, certain service rituals or music ambience. Distinguish between brand values and personal preferences. A successor cannot maintain your identity if you cannot articulate it.
Strengthen Management
Succession is easier when there is a capable sous chef, assistant manager or floor leader who already understands the DNA of the restaurant. Investing in middle management training reduces dependency on any single individual.
Clean Up Financials
Many independent restaurants carry informal arrangements, outdated pricing, unrecorded owner perks or messy vendor relationships. A successor, especially a buyer, needs clarity. Transparent financials increase confidence and valuation.
Executing The Transition
Once the successor is identified, the transition requires structure.
Set Clear Authorities
Staff must know exactly who is in charge going forward. The founder should publicly endorse the successor, state the new decision making hierarchy and stick to it. No backdoor approvals or emotional reversals.
Create A Timeline
Plan a structured schedule over several weeks, such as week one – shadowing, week two – joint decision making. week three – successor leads with founder observing, month two – founder steps back to scheduled check ins only. A timeline turns vague intentions into measurable milestones.
Agree On Founder’s New Role
If the founder remains involved, define specific responsibilities, such as brand ambassador, training advisor, menu consultant or quality spot checks. Boundaries prevent confusion. The founder cannot be half retired and half in charge.
Support, Don’t Override
If the successor introduces new systems, technology or service flow, support the decision publicly even if you disagree privately. Change is part of progress. The worst possible move is to quietly revert to “the old ways.”
Long Term Touchpoints
Even after the actual transition is complete, succession must be maintained.
Schedule Check Ins
Monthly or quarterly strategy meetings allow the founder to provide insight without meddling. Focus on trends, long term issues and brand direction rather than day to day decisions.
Accept Evolution
The restaurant will change. The menu, service rituals, pricing, staffing or marketing style may shift. Evolution does not equal disrespect. A restaurant that never changes becomes irrelevant.
Support Successor’s Authority
If staff approach the founder seeking alternative decisions, redirect them to the new leader. Unity is essential.
Let Everyone Breathe
A big part of successful successions is the founder’s ability to emotionally detach. The restaurant is no longer an extension of self. It is a legacy managed by another hand.
Into The Sunset
Succession is not a farewell. Letting go is not weakness. It is a redesign of leadership so the restaurant can thrive beyond the founder’s shadow, the ultimate act of stewardship. The statement “we have always done it like this” is neither a strategy nor a plan for the future. A structured, humble and disciplined approach to succession is. Enjoy your retirement.
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Churrasco Phuket Steakhouse serves affordable Wagyu and Black Angus steaks and burgers. We are open daily from 12noon to 11pm at Jungceylon Shopping Center in Patong / Phuket.
We are family-friendly and offer free parking and Wi-Fi for guests. See our menus, reserve your table, find our location, and check all guest reviews here:
https://ChurrascoPhuket.com/
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